During the summer, I have time to do things that I sometimes don’t get to do during the school year…such as watch tv. So I watched season 4 of Queer Eye recently (shut up, it’s fun). In the first episode, the makeover subject was a teacher that Jonathan had when he was in high school. This teacher appeared to be in charge of all of the arts programs for the district (How is that even possible?) and never seemed to go home.
Now, I know people love this image. The teacher so selfless, she (let’s be real, it’s often a she in this role) never seems to go home, that she lives for and through her students, that her family is really the students and her actual family comes second or is nonexistent.
I find this image problematic because it basically makes people think that the only good teachers are the ones who have no life outside school and that give themselves up in service of their students. And while that admirable to an extent, that shouldn’t be the ideal. You can be passionate about teaching and still maintain some semblance of self outside of work. You can make a difference in your student’s lives and raise biological kids. I don’t think teachers need to only be one thing. We can be teachers and parents and artists and athletes and musicians and photographers. But when society sees these teachers portrayed on tv and in movies as these people who ONLY care about teaching, then we get a misguided idea of what being a teacher looks like. We should definitely share our interests with students and get involved at our schools. It’s only when that comes at the expense of everything else in life that there’s an issue that does not seem to get addressed in these idealized portrayals of teachers.